|A recent survey conducted by Manchester-based firm of solicitors, Slater and Gordon, has discovered that 50 per cent of those who have been divorced had doubts before they got married.
The survey found that 45 per cent of the divorced respondents said that they were concerned that their relationship was destined to fail before they had even walked down the aisle, some even stating that they felt so anxious before the day that they felt physically ill.
Of the respondents, around 65 per cent said that they had thought about not turning up to their big day, and leaving their finance jilted at the altar. A further 48 per cent said that they believed a ‘quickie divorce’ would be a viable option to get out of the marriage.
The findings revealed that half of the respondents regretted getting hitched in the first place.
Approximately 60 per cent said that they believed that their relationship would improve once they wed.
Slater and Gordon found that the most common reasons for divorcees ignoring their gut instinct, and getting married anyway, were:
1. They hoped it would all be okay
2. They believed that it was too late to call the marriage off
3. They perceived their concerns as ‘jitters’ or nerves
4. They felt a sense of guilt about cancelling the wedding
5. They felt pressure from family members
6. They thought their other half would change after the marriage
7. They feared embarrassment if they called it off
8. They didn’t want to end their relationship
9. They’d spent too much money on the big day to cancel (10 per cent)
10. Children were involved and they felt it was right to marry the mother/fal ther of their child
The researchers surveyed 1,600 people, who had all gone through a divorce, after Slater and Gordon noticed that many of their clients who filed had regretted not listening to their gut instinct before going through with their – already doomed – marriage.
Of the respondents, only 13 per cent had considered what would happen should they want a divorce.
Figures from the Office for National Statistics suggest that approximately 42 per cent of married couples end up getting divorced.
In 2012, 118,140 couples got divorces, an increment of 0.5 per cent from the year prior. The statistics also approximate that there were 13 divorces per hour, 50 per cent of which were filed before they’d got to their 10 year anniversary.
However, in the period between 2003 and 2009, the number of people seeking a divorce fell and it was only until 2010 when the figures rose to 4.9 per cent.